Thursday, August 28, 2008

One Thing I Learned From Miscarriage

Don't ask someone when they are going to have children (or another child for that matter).

I learned this a few days after my first miscarriage. We had flown home to see family and friends, a trip that had been planned for quite a while and was actually delayed for a few days because of my impending miscarriage (thank God we did not get on that plane as scheduled or I would have miscarried right around when my plane was landing in my hometown).

I was in the grocery store and a high school girl came over to say hi. I knew her from my days working with the youth group. We hugged, she asked how I was, how married life was, and then she started with the baby questions. So, are you going to have kids soon? When are you going to start having babies? You should have kids! My sister just had a baby, you should have a baby! She was happy and excited and she had absolutely no clue.

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Aurelia is the contributing editor for Early Pregnancy Loss. She writes daily at Aurelia Ann. She provides "thoughts-written-out-loud" in words and pictures.


luna said...

this is such an excellent post. thanks for sharing it here and telling your story.

My name is Andy. said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I just found out today that my cousin-in-law and his fiancee lost their baby to a miscarriage. They are getting married in 4 weeks, so I can only imagine what a difficult time this is for them. I came back to re-read your post to try and help me to understand a little bit of what they may be going through as well as to help me with what to say when I see them at the wedding.