Thursday, October 30, 2008

Two Tastes

These two posts go together...

Seek First to Understand

My hope is that some of the pain in Adoption World could be healed if people with a nemesis could really imagine walking in the shoes of their nemesis.

I'm on boards that are exclusively for adoptive parents, and it's disappointing how little compassion and respect there is for firstparents (on occasion). I'm aware that there are boards for birth parents who (occasionally) express disdain and disrespect for adoptive parents. And adult adoptees also have their private places to vent about parents of all sorts.

These entrenched perspectives just dig people in further to their misery. And some people dig that, thrive on that, get their raison d'ĂȘtre from that.

But for others who want to move through, the only lasting way, I believe, is to see the Other as a reflection of Self.

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It's a Matter of Perspective

Remember when I wrote about the Drama Wheel? The short play where one person is the villain, the victim and the hero?

Well, there are other examples, as I'm finding, of stories in which two opposing parties are forced to see from the other's viewpoint.

Here are two movies my kids have been watching lately. Check out the general theme of "seeing a situation from multiple perspectives."

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Lori is the contributing editor for Domestic Adoption. She writes daily at her main blog, Weebles Wobblog. She records her family's adoption story at Drama 2B Mama and reviews products at All Thumbs Reviews.

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