Monday, August 11, 2008

Returning to the Well

While the adoption community has many bridges and bridge builders, one can still find lot of sorrow, loss and hurt. The better members of the triad -- adoptees, firstparents and adoptive parents -- can empathize with each other, the better we can all ease the sorrow, loss and hurt. Posts on Bridges are meant to do just that: to help you experience another's light-bearing perspective.

A few weeks back, my friend Crystal offered to have my children come play at her house for a few hours. Rob had been out of town, and some down time for me sounded reealllly good.

It was a no-brainer. Responsible child watcher? Free time? Of course!

But I had to stop to think a moment.

Because Crystal is Tessa's firstmom.

"Is this weird?" I thought. "It doesn't feel weird. It should feel weird. Other people would find it weird. But I am definitely not sensing weird." The thoughts chugged through my head as I searched for some rain on my parade.

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Lori is the contributing editor for Domestic Adoption. She writes daily at her main blog, Weebles Wobblog. She records her family's adoption story at Drama 2B Mama and reviews products at All Thumbs Reviews.

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luna said...

I love the concept of "returning to the well." it so beautifully conveys how and why honoring the open relationship in adoption is so critical for the child's development. thank you!

marigold said...

I'm excited to be a part of this community! It's awesome that you're part of another successful open adoption. Let's educate!